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John Barach pointed me to this article by Naomi Wolf on the effect of pornography on modern sexuality. Wolf argues that rather than whetting men’s appetites for sex, the effect of porn has been to dampen their interest in the “real thing.” Real women can’t compete with their cyber counterparts in the porn industry. Real women have feelings, desires, and interests — i.e. are far more complicated than the porn princesses that can be dialed up over the phone or on your netbook. Real women want real love and not merely momentary fireworks. Real women require sacrifice, devotion, commitment. And this is all frightening and unattractive to our modern porn boys.

But another side effect of porn is how it trains men (and women) to think about sex. Sex is merely a bodily action for the purpose of satisfying one of your basic drives. It’s for personal chills and thrills; the main point is “fulfilling me.” Which is another way of saying that sex is no longer an expression of love. And that means, it is no longer a “mystery.”

Wolf mentions a conversation she had with a student at Northwestern after she had given a talk on the effects of porn on relationships. The male student was explaining why it is now the practice to have sexual intercourse immediately when you meet a girl, rather than waiting until you know one another:

“Why have sex right away?” a boy with tousled hair and Bambi eyes was explaining. “Things are always a little tense and uncomfortable when you just start seeing someone,” he said. “I prefer to have sex right away just to get it over with. You know it’s going to happen anyway, and it gets rid of the tension.”

“Isn’t the tension kind of fun?” I asked. “Doesn’t that also get rid of the mystery?”

“Mystery?” He looked at me blankly. And then, without hesitating, he replied: “I don’t know what you’re talking about. Sex has no mystery.”

Indeed. To talk about the “mystery” of sex is to speak gibberish to modern man. “Mystery? What mystery? Take your clothes off and let’s get it on. No mystery here!” True. There isn’t.

And it is just at this point that we see the true evil and wickedness of porn. It demystifies one of the greatest mysteries of all: the mystery of how two become one. It’s truly Satanic. Porn comes to steal, kill, and destroy. Lose the mystery and you lose everything.

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